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Why I Chose to Write a Multi-Topic Blog

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When you think of “blogs” you generally think of personal writings, such as the writing about somebody’s day-to-day life, such as Jenn.nu and GeekyPosh.com. And if it’s not a blog about day-to-day life, then perhaps it’s a blogging-platform-driven website based on a topic, turning it into a one-topic blog, such as The Simple Dollar or WPCandy.com.

My blog, therefore, a blog about six different topics, is rather strange in comparison. Why, given these two other (somewhat easier-looking) styles of blogging, would I choose to create a blog this diverse?

Reason #1: Tried Personal Blogs and One-Topic Blogs Before–and Failed

Yes, you read that right. I actually have failed at doing blogs several times before Crooked Glasses came to be. And I have tried both types of blogging styles that I outlined above.

After trying to run a WindowsLive Space, a LiveJournal, and a personal site, I discovered that my personal life was just not interesting enough to warrant writing a post about every day. Some days, I literally thought, “If I post today, it’s going to have the same content as the post yesterday.” Seriously, nobody needs to read a whole week (or month) of posts along the lines of “Today I woke up. I ate something. Then I watched TV before going to meet my boyfriend and hang out. Then I came home and wrote this blog post, then went to bed.”

It bored me to tears to think about writing this drivel, so I had to come to the hard conclusion that it would also be boring for people to read. (I also never kept a steady diary during my childhood for the same reason–it bored me to write identical diary entries day after day.)

In between trying to make a personal blog work for me, I also tried a couple of topic blogs that are best left forgotten, basically about my favorite TV shows at the time. What frustrated me about writing one-topic blogs was that I quickly ran out of content–I ran out of things to say about the topic very quickly when I felt pressured to write about it every day. It wasn’t that I didn’t like the topic anymore or that I got tired of it; instead, I struggled week to week to try to find new nuggets of information that my visitors would like to read, and I ended up feeling like all I was writing was retreads of old articles.

Reason #2: Wanted One Site that Covered All My Favorite Things

Like Julie Andrews’ character in The Sound of Music, I have a lot of favorite things; I am interested in webdesign, Internet surfing, and creativity, but also in Biblical study, gaming, and a bit of philosophy and commentary here and there. I didn’t want to have six different blogs, though–I wanted one place, one login and one blogging platform installation, that allowed me to share about all the things I love.

I also wanted my blog to stand out, and I knew that a multi-topic blog would be a lot broader and more interesting to viewers, as well as providing them a window into topics they might have never thought of or heard of before.

Reason #3: Keeps Me Writing and Doesn’t Let Me Get Bored

The last reason I chose a multi-topic blog is because this keeps me writing. Every week, I challenge myself to write six new blog posts, six new examples of fresh and interesting content, and it helps me hone and trim my writing down to its essential basics instead of allowing my words to run amok. It doesn’t let me slack off or procrastinate (as I am so prone to do in other areas of my life)–this is a personal commitment to working on one of my best-loved crafts.

Writing about six different topics also keeps me from being bored or running out of content. I don’t drag myself through writing six posts about the same topic–I am energized by writing one post each about my favorite topics.

Summary

Blogging doesn’t have to be based in your personal life or in just one topic. Indeed, if you’re interested in many different topics, a multi-topic blog might be just the way to make your mark on the blogging community. (I don’t claim that Crooked Glasses is all that popular just yet, but you never know!)

Why “Casual Gaming” is Actually Great

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This just in: you don’t ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO win at every game you play. Casual gaming IS a viable option!

Current Gaming Culture: Win All the Time or You’re “Not a True Gamer”

Unfortunately, these days, casual gamers (like me) often get treated as an inferior breed by winning-obsessed meta-gamers. Those who treat winning at a game like their career are venerated, after all; their motive seems to be “If you’re not playing to win, why play at all?”

I only have to look as far as Magic: the Gathering and HeroClix to find this infectious mindset, but it’s invaded all sorts of gaming. We all naturally want to prove we’re strongest, we’re smartest, etc., in all areas of our lives, including gaming.

Competitive Gaming = Anger and Frustration

Personally, however, I’ve had to get out of competitions in about everything I do. Not just because I don’t win/succeed as much as I’d like (though that’s part of it)–it’s because competition turns me into a horrible person. I yell, I bite my fingers, I stomp around, and otherwise express unwarranted anger that other people should never have to witness. When my efforts lead to failure, I explode. I’m just not a good Christian when I do anything competitively, and that unfortunately extends to gaming, too.

Casual Gaming = Relaxation and Fun

To combat my anger in gaming, I’ve become a casual gamer, and I’ve found it to be a much more enjoyable experience than trying to be competitive. I’m actually much more suited to casual gaming–I like exploring around and coming up with my own ways to solve puzzles, not just copying what everybody else did to get through a level. (This is possibly one reason I get so angry in competitive gaming, because it pretty much requires you not to be creative, at all.)

As I’ve continued to game casually rather than competitively, I’ve noticed a few other perks:

Other Benefits of Casual Gaming

  • Socializing with others takes the place of just “beating the game.” I love being able to joke with my friends about the game instead of being so concerned about the “big win.” Not to mention that I have the mental freedom to come up with new strategies that my friends haven’t thought of–in casual games, they can appreciate it without being angry that the strategy is beating them.
  • In a casual game, you can piddle around and find all kinds of new things. If you’re not worried about completing a game in a certain time limit, for instance, you can just explore and wander around–that’s my favorite part of any console game or large online game.
  • You can try new strategies and add to or abandon them as you see fit. Playing casually lends a “sandbox” feel to any game–since every idea is equally worth pursuing, there’s more room for creativity and less inhibition about trying your new ideas out.
  • You can use the game as an escape rather than a worth-proving exercise. Gaming competitively does not let me wind down–it tenses me up and makes me feel worse about myself when I lose, because I put a bit of my self-worth into winning. When I game casually, I let go of that concept and just enjoy the time spent not working. 🙂

Why This Might Not Work for Everybody

As cool as casual gaming is for me, it might not be the natural playstyle for everyone. There are just some people who thrive on competition–and I might be describing you! For some, competitive gaming is their forte and casual gaming is an exercise in futility; indeed, casual gaming might be irritating rather than fun.

If you like competing with others and it doesn’t send you into fits of rage, that’s wonderful. However, neither form of gaming is superior to the other. It just depends on what you get out of the game, whether you like the challenge or like the escape from everyday life.

Summary

Casual gaming is a worthy pastime, great for anybody who prefers using a game for socializing with friends and escaping from the pressures of normal life. Us casual gamers may not be winning any “speed gaming” or “fastest A button in the West” prizes any time soon, but…that may not be the most important thing!

Living Without Portable Computers

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What would happen if we had no smartphones, tablets, or laptops–no portable Internet?

I know that seems like a silly question, given that we used to live this way less than 20 years ago. But Internet and technology have become so embedded in our lifestyle that we literally don’t know what to do with ourselves when we lose access to that link with the world.

I faced this in 2011 personally, with the damage to and ultimate loss of my laptop–suddenly, I didn’t have that portable entertainment, that mobile Internet, that convenient writing and publishing device at my side anymore. It was a mental challenge…and yet, more and more, people are going on “diets” from their smartphones and laptops (and even computers in general). Either that, or they’ve lost their access to said devices and have to figure out how to live life without them (temporarily or permanently). (See: articles from Business Insider, Fast Company, Huffington Post, 43 Folders, Mens’ XP, and even WikiHow!)

My point: sometimes you NEED a break from technology. Sometimes you NEED to stop staring at a computer screen. Here’s what I learned as a result of losing access to my laptop for several months:

  • I didn’t have as much neck and shoulder tension because I wasn’t hunched over the keyboard
  • I started practicing my handwriting again because I had to–I had gotten so out of practice that even signing my own name felt odd
  • I started spending more face-to-face time with my boyfriend, family, and friends
  • I learned to stop depending on Internet access quite so much for answers/entertainment
  • I found out that my personal work could wait a little while, or could be done in other, less digital ways

This Isn’t EASY, but It’s NECESSARY

The palpable loss of technology can set us on our ears, figuratively speaking, but every once in a while we need to be reminded that we can be functioning humans without having little screens to accompany us everywhere. It’s a struggle at first, but it can be done, as the above referenced articles and my own personal experience prove. “Staying connected” is one thing, but Internet addiction is real (and I’m still having to break myself free of it)!

Gaming Makes You Smarter

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You might be one who looks at most games and scoffs. “What educational value could this game possibly have?” you might think. Most video games and even collectible games these days seem either too violent, too cartoony, or too simple. Where’s the challenge? Where’s the mental stimulation?

Or, perhaps, you’re one of the millions of people who have discovered how stimulating and challenging games can be. As a gamer from the time I was five years old, I feel I’ve messed with enough games (and messed UP in enough games) to understand the true challenges and learning situations that can come up in all sorts of gaming concepts, from video games to collectible games, RPGs to first-person shooters and beyond. I truly believe gaming can make you smarter!

Gaming Teaches Time and Resource Management

Video games and collectible games alike help us manage time and items better. In Super Mario World for the SNES, you got a “Time Bonus” if you finished the level in a certain number of seconds. The game rewarded you for getting through the level without getting poor Mario killed or dawdling about. Not only that, but if you managed to keep all the lives that Mario was allotted in the beginning, you had them saved for later battles with one or more of Bowser’s children.

Learning to manage time effectively is one of the hardest things to teach kids–I should know, I tried to teach middle-school kids with limited success. If you give most kids a time limit of 15 minutes to do an in-class activity, chances are most of the kids are going to goof around for 10 minutes and then rush to do the assignment in the last 5 minutes. What games teach us is to value the time we’re given to complete an assignment, and to use that time to the best of our ability–i.e., not standing at the beginning of the level for a few minutes looking at the pretty background, but actively moving through it and solving the puzzles that come up.

Resource management is also difficult to teach, but easy to learn through games. While a kid may not understand that he or she only gets limited access to the glue sticks, crayons, and scissors, they can better understand that Mario only gets 5 lives to try to complete this level. Older kids might not be able to grasp that their research papers need accurate and reliable sources to be good papers, but they’ll likely understand what happens if you don’t draw a 7-card hand with enough mana in Magic: the Gathering. (A hand with no land, or mana-producing cards, leads to turns and turns of “I draw. Your turn.”)

Gaming Teaches Long-Term Planning

In HeroClix (“chess with superheroes”), having no plan of attack means you’re likely disadvantaged from the beginning. You have to assess the other player’s team, figure out which piece needs to be defeated first, and decide how best to approach to offset the other player’s strategy. This takes long-term planning, which isn’t always a strong suit for kids or adults alike.

Planning ahead, like time management, takes careful thought, and gaming strategies help people of all ages get more comfortable with how to plan ahead, what to think of ahead of time, and how to make the best of your situation. You can plan too far ahead of your opponent, or plan too far ahead of your road trip, but you can never make too many tweaks to your original plan–that’s the beauty of long-term planning!

Gaming Teaches Diplomacy

In multiplayer games, as in real life, other people’s plans may interfere with yours, or may co-opt or ignore your plans altogether. When you play a multiplayer game like the Resident Evil deck building game, you have to “buy” the resources you need without taking too much away from other players, all while trying to be the player that takes out the most zombies hiding in the Mansion. Some players choose not to be diplomatic, and end up hogging all the resources to themselves; I find, however, that diplomacy serves you well in the long term by allowing everyone to play at their best level.

Diplomacy goes beyond gaming to the classroom and to the workplace. Kids can easily be inclined not to let the other kids have their blue crayon because they’re coloring the sky in their picture; adults can easily be inclined to complain to management if someone else asks to use the room that they unofficially reserved for their special group meeting. By sharing diplomatically instead of taking all the resources for oneself, you encourage better relations among your fellow gamers (or your classmates, or your co-workers)!

Gaming Teaches Critical Thinking

Which card should I play next? Which character should I use to beat this challenge? Games often bring us mental puzzles to work out, which boosts “critical thinking,” a skill I often saw talked about in my teacher literature but which was never quite defined. I think of “critical thinking” as “deeper thinking”–not just “what” something is and “how” it works, but “when” to use it and “why” it was developed.

Going beyond facts to inferences and interpretations stretches the gray matter a good bit, and can get you out of a tight squeeze in Pikmin for Nintendo Gamecube just as easily as it gets you writing for that state test. For instance, just as you have to figure out how many and which types of Pikmin should be in your army for the day by studying what objective you want to complete, you have to figure out how to best present your position on an issue at work. It challenges you to think about the problem in different lights.

Gaming Teaches Multitasking

Games’ multitasking goes beyond hitting two buttons on the controller at once? Most certainly! In HeroClix, you often have two or three pieces going after a couple of objectives at once. You might have dispatched your second-string attacker to go and mop up the support crew of your opponent’s team, while you sent in your first-string attackers to deal with the primary damage-dealer of their team. If you don’t multitask during games, you can find yourself in a bind pretty quick.

It is the same way in our lives–if you don’t multitask, sometimes things don’t get done as quickly as they might need to be. Multitasking is a great skill to pick up because it makes you a more efficient worker. I find that multitasking keeps me from grinding away at the same problem for hours; if I find myself stuck on something, I just switch to another task for a few minutes, accomplish maybe a small goal or two, and then come back to the first task with slightly fresher eyes.

Summary

While games are entertaining and great fun, I also find that games can teach us quite a few skills that we’ll need either in the school world or the work world. Try a challenging game sometime, and see how your skills improve!

Quit Wailing and Listen, Politicians!

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Know how horribly broken our political system is these days? It’s so broken that it took only 30 seconds of trying to watch two party representatives “discuss the issues” on Meet the Press before I turned off the TV in disgust.

The National Symptom of an Underlying Political Illness

On this particular show, the host of Meet the Press had invited a Republican and a Democrat to talk over the issues facing the United States Congress, and they appeared on the show via split-screen. When the host asked a question, I prepared myself to hear first one side of the debate and then the other. That was definitely not what I got.

In the 30 seconds before I turned the TV off, both party members began to talk over each other, as if the other person wasn’t even there. Not only that, but they would only let each other talk only for a few seconds before jumping in with a rebuttal.

It was clear, as I watched both their faces, that they were not at all listening to what the other person had to say, but were each waiting for their next opportunity to strike a verbal blow for “their party.” It absolutely sickened me. All I could hear were two babies wailing at each other about who to blame for this newest crisis–there wasn’t a word said about what these two people, or the parties they represented, planned to DO about fixing it.

The “Blame Game” Needs to STOP

I’d say I speak for most Americans when I say that I am utterly weary of this back-and-forth blame game between our two dominant parties. When people from both sides gather to “discuss the issues,” we’d like to HEAR YOU DISCUSS THE ISSUES. We don’t need to hear an argument over which party is at fault, nor do we need political double-talk that means nothing; we need a mature, compromise-based approach if anything is ever to be solved.

Politicians on BOTH sides, please hear us. As long as y’all keep acting like toddlers in the throes of the Terrible Twos, most of the general public won’t want to bother with you. We want to know what you’re going to do about what’s happening to us. We also want you to work with each other–didn’t your kindergarten teachers ever grade you on “playing well with others?”

Neither party apparently has all the answers, so the best thing to do, it would seem, is to drop the petty squabbling and seek common ground. Let’s at least TRY to get hold of this nation before it completes its swirling journey down the toilet.

It’s Trendy to Be Illustrated

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Websites have been shifting away from text, going toward images and videos. Why is this?

Well, there are some solid reasons for minimizing the amount of text on your blog:

The Pros of Using More Images

  1. More people (about 70% of the world’s population) are visual learners–they take in information better with pictures rather than words. Thus, charts, graphs, illustrations, and other images are going to be more easily understood by your audience.
  2. Making images is often easier and more fun than writing up blog entries day after day. Images can be more easily designed in creative and colorful ways than text can be.
  3. Website visitors can more easily save images to their hard drive or share it with other people using social media. You can’t do that so easily with text, even with an excerpt of your blog entry.

But Wait a Minute…

While there are benefits to doing more things by illustrations and images, I believe there are drawbacks, too, and they concern me a great deal, both as an English major and a former Language Arts teacher.

The Cons of Going Completely Textless

  1. Images make us lazy readers; we end up not able to focus on long paragraphs because we haven’t practiced this skill often enough. (This is also called “how to make your English teachers cry”)
  2. Images are harder to format than text, since they are a fixed height and width. You’ve pretty much got to design your site around displaying your images properly.
  3. Images are not always mobile-device-friendly. Ever tried looking at an un-resizable image on a mobile browser? It’s usually blown up too big, or it shows up way too small to be any use. Text is a lot friendlier (and easier to load) on mobile data connections.

What Do We Do About This?

Here are a few ways to include more text on your websites without overwhelming your readers:

  • Include enough images to make your content interesting, but also provide descriptive text captions. (This also makes your website friendly to screen readers)
  • Space out your lines of text using the CSS “line-height” property–whatever your body font size is in pixels, set your line-height to be 4-5 pixels taller. (Example: “font-size: 18px; line-height: 22px;”)
  • Use images as highlighters for your text–place them so that they draw attention to the important points.
  • Write and format descriptive, bold subheadings/headings to make your articles easy to scan through for content.

Summary

Our sites don’t have to be completely text-free in order to be “modern sites”–instead, we can include images WITH our text. It doesn’t have to be one or the other; in fact, our visitors will benefit greatly from seeing lots of different information formats on our pages!

Play-Doh: An Exercise in Mooshy Creativity

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For most of us, Play-Doh is a product probably best left in our childhoods, due to the messes we made (remember that mixture of blue and orange Play-Doh that would never get un-mixed, or the bright green blotch in the beige carpet?). Not to mention the unintentional hair extensions we might have made with purple Play-Doh (I was 3 1/2 and thought it was pretty…the adults around me weren’t quite so enthusiastic, as I recall). 😀

But I loved playing with the stuff, because it was just so delightfully MOOSHY in my hands (“mooshy” being a word our family came up with to describe the unique texture of Play-Doh and other similar products). I loved squeezing the slightly-cool mass through my fingers, the smell of it lingering long after the little yellow tubs were put away for the day. And most of all, I liked making strange little shapes, even if they were just really long, skinny snakes that particular day.

I’m sure you have your own childhood memories, positive or not, which involve Play-Doh or another type of soft molding clay. Trouble is, they’re just memories. As adults, we don’t often let ourselves have the time to just mess with something fun. Fun has to be educational or possibly work-related, fun has to be multi-tasking or going towards an eventual goal, because we’re adults and we’re too old to play.

…Or are we?

I would venture to say that if given the chance, we should all play a little more. Not just play with a computer or a video game controller, but really play with our hands, interacting directly with our environment. In fact, there’s a few things Play-Doh can teach us about living in and reacting to our world, lessons we might need to relearn.

Things Play-Doh Can Teach Us

#1: You Can Make ANYTHING With Your Imagination

We tell our children this all the time, but do we really believe it?

With Play-Doh or something else that is infinitely moldable (even Legos), we can form anything that we wish to. Even though my Lego-building expertise sort of stopped with building skinny skyscraper-looking “buildings,” I still had fun doing it, because that’s what I imagined. Even though I couldn’t sculpt a David or a Venus de Milo out of Play-Doh, I still had fun making fake hair and funny face shapes.

But as adults, we tend to lock ourselves into a traditional mode of doing things. We might do something the same way every time because it’s easier–it involves no thinking, perhaps, or it’s just comfortable. We might also do something the same way every time because we were taught that way, and we aren’t sure how to innovate.

Play-Doh teaches that you don’t have to do anything any particular way, because it begins as just a nearly-formless mass. Feeling and instinct, therefore, guides us, where intellect and reason would only keep us away from possible new ways of doing things. We can look at that little blue or red ball and just start squeezing and mooshing at it rather than planning every step.

#2: If It Ain’t Right, Moosh It Up and Try Again

Ever seen a kid playing with Play-Doh? They might spend a lot of time sculpting something, only to look at it, shake their heads, and merrily mash it all into a vaguely potato-shaped mass again. When the Play-Doh doesn’t match what they were thinking of, they think nothing of just mooshing it all back together, and more importantly, trying again.

Here again, as adults, we forget that lesson. We get so attached to our creations, knowing the effort and knowledge that it took to make it, that we can’t fathom just erasing it all and starting again, even when we’ve reached an impasse. But when what we have created doesn’t match our vision and is not successful, we must either tweak what we’ve got, or mentally moosh it all up and start again.

Play-Doh represents the flexibility of our brains to visualize, tweak, re-vision, and if necessary, totally reshape. If we can let go of our pride long enough to moosh up our failed ideas and mix them all up again, maybe with some fresh thinking added to the mix, we just might come up with the solution.

#3: There Are Endless Ways to Tweak

Once we have an idea we like, we tend to be obstinate about changing things. Somebody else thinks your work project ought to be done this way? “Not on my watch; I worked hard on this design and I don’t think it needs to be changed.” Young children often think in similar ways–“it’s MY Play-Doh and it’s MY shape, and you don’t touch it!” We are very protective of our ideas and don’t usually like to hear criticism or suggestions of change.

But Play-Doh teaches us that there are endless ways to pinch, curl, flatten, and roll your ideas without changing the basic essence of what you have created. That smiley face made of purple and green Play-Doh is great, but what if it had a blue nose instead of a pink one? And what if its nose wasn’t a long, skinny shape, but a squat flat one? No matter what the nose looks like, you’ve still got a smiley face, haven’t you? When we are open to tweaking (open to compromise), we allow others to be part of the creative process, and in so doing, experience a bonding that usually doesn’t escape the kindergarten classroom.

#4: Just Because It’s Dried Up Doesn’t Mean It’s Trash

We’ve all had it happen–one of the little yellow canisters gets left open overnight, and we’re greeted with the sight of crumbly, dry Play-Doh the next morning. Usually, such sad lumps get tossed in the trash, because there’s no way to revive it, right?

As adults, we can feel the same way about our old, tired ideas. We’ve run them around so much in our minds that we’re sick of them; we’ve tried to make them work so many times that we’ve lost count. The idea feels dry, crumbled, lifeless in our mental hands. Sometimes, we end up just throwing them away, tossing them aside as failed projects that will never, ever work.

But even Play-Doh can be brought back from the brink of crumbling death. I remember one morning, when I was about six or seven, trying to figure out how to get my beloved blue Play-Doh to be springy and full of life again–I’d left it open two nights before and it resembled blue scrambled eggs that morning, falling apart in my hands.

I tried working at it and working at it with no success, and finally I went to the sink and washed my hands because they were coated in little bitty blue crumbs. I didn’t dry my hands very well (I was too impatient for that), so I returned to work on the Play-Doh with slightly damp hands. Imagine my surprise when the dried pieces began to feel just a bit softer, and began to stick together again!

Inspired, I went to the sink and got a few more drops of water directly on the Play-Doh, and then a few more, until it felt just a bit slick in my hands. I ended up kneading it and kneading it, and I worked that dried-up old mess into a moldable ball of blue beauty in about 30 minutes. (I’m still not sure what exactly happened, but I think the combination of the water and the oils from my hands and the hand soap helped rehydrate it.)

Believe it or not, we can do the same with our ideas. We may not be able to “just add water” and get everything working again, but we can add new inspiration, new research, or even other people’s input to help us try to revive our old, dried-up concepts. Sometimes, it just takes someone else’s eyes on the page to help; sometimes, it just takes being away from the idea for several days (or weeks) for us to regain some perspective.

Summary

We might not be kids anymore, but sometimes we ought to allow our brains to play instead of chaining them to desks and computers. We might be surprised at what we can come up with when we aren’t hindered by tradition, pride, tiredness, and lack of compromise.

My Favorite Beauty Products

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Though most of my blog posts don’t trumpet my femininity to the heavens, I definitely am a girl–and so, I figured I’d indulge myself in naming some of my all-time favorite beauty products, partially inspired by Jenny’s post about her drugstore beauty haul. (By the way, this post is not sponsored by any company!)

See what products have pleased this incredibly picky girl, below!

Face Products


St. Ives Invigorating Apricot Scrub
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Nivea Soft
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Vaseline Cocoa Butter Lip Therapy
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Urban Decay Naked2 Eyeshadow Palette
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Covergirl Instant Cheekbones Contouring Blush in Refined Rose
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Lipstick Queen Lipstick in Medieval
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Lipstick Queen Lipstick in Jean Queen

With my fair, sensitive yet oily skin, and my desire for a simple makeup routine, I focus more on better skincare and a couple of enhancing makeup products rather than caking on skin-colored makeup. I’ve used St. Ives scrub weekly for years, and Nivea Soft moisturizer is an excellent follow-up to it. (Other than these two products, however, I only use water on my face during the rest of the week–my face breaks out and gets angrily dry if I try to wash it too often.)

The Lipstick Queen lipsticks are the best-pigmented, least-sticky lipsticks I’ve ever used, period (Medieval, especially). I love Medieval’s soft red color–it’s red without being crazily dramatic, while Jean Queen is the perfect pinky-nude color. Plus, Vaseline’s Cocoa Butter Lip Therapy helps my peeling lips (possibly caused by a vitamin B deficiency) during the night. Combine the two and I have radiant, soft, boyfriend-approved lips ALL DAY. Meanwhile, CoverGirl’s Instant Cheekbones blush gives my face a soft lift without looking too made-up, and Urban Decay’s lovely range of metallic eyeshadows lend a pretty highlight to the lids of my deep-set eyes.

Hair Products

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Pantene Damage Detox Weekly Deep Cleanse

Pantene Classic Care 2 in 1
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Dove Intensive Repair Shampoo
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Dove Intensive Repair Conditioner

My straight, medium-fine hair and my oily scalp actually combine to give me easy-care hair. I can pretty much wash, comb, and wear in the summer, and wash, comb, dry and wear in the winter (which is all the styling I care to do, LOL). Thus, my hair beauty routine is focused around great shampoos and conditioners rather than “styling” products.

Pantene’s Weekly Deep Cleanse is just about as great as their discontinued Clarifying Shampoo (which I loved <3), and I use it as my first shampoo in the shower to degrease and prepare my hair. Depending on the time I have to get ready, I can then either reach for my 2-in-1 shampoo or my Dove Intensive Repair Shampoo and Conditioner. Both have wonderful light fragrances and leave my hair looking and feeling like silk, which both my boyfriend and I love.

Body Products

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Dove Original Beauty Bar
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Venezia Soapworks Rose Soap

Venus Original Razor

Venus Breeze Razor With Shave Gel

Since I’m phasing out shower gels and body washes in favor of cheaper moisturizing bar soaps, I’ve listed my two favorite bar soaps here. Dove’s original white soap has been a go-to product since my childhood, and Venezia Soapworks’ rose soap is a new favorite with the potential for the richest lather I’ve ever seen a bar soap make. As a time-saver, I use my Venus Breeze razor in the shower–I don’t have to buy separate shave cream, AND it’s one fewer thing I have to carry when traveling. My original Venus razor serves alongside a simple bottle of conditioner for longer shave sessions or for touch-ups.

Summary

My pared-down beauty routine may look too simple to some, but these are the products I have personally tested and found to be AMAZING. I have no brand loyalties, and like I said at the beginning of the post, nobody’s paying me to say any of this–I just love these products!

Thanks For Taking My Space

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The fact that I even feel the need to write this post is evidence enough that people aren’t considerate of disabled people. I am a real handicapped person, with a parking placard and everything, and yet most of the time I can’t find a handicapped space in parking lots because non-handicapped people have taken them. Thus, I end up thinking the title of this post–“gee, thanks for taking my space!”

Why Is This an Issue?

Handicapped people have extreme difficulty with mobility, and often they have to have a good bit of room around their vehicle so that a wheelchair or other mobility device can be loaded and unloaded. Handicapped spaces are thus provided with extra room around the space, and the spaces are located very close to the doors of businesses. These spaces are meant for people who have a medically-issued, government-approved handicapped placard.

At least, that’s the intended purpose. But most of the time, non-handicapped people use handicapped spaces as convenience spaces for a “quick trip to the store” (which ends up being ALL DAY). Or, people park in the striped lines BESIDE the handicapped space and make it impossible for people with mobility devices to get out of their cars/vans at all.

Both of these actions are incredibly inconsiderate and infuriating to me, as a real-life disabled person, and I know other disabled people get frustrated about this too. In my case, any walking I do aggravates one of the major nerves in my ankles, causing sharp lightning pains up my legs with every step. When I can’t find a handicapped place, it literally hurts so much to walk into the building that sometimes I just have to turn around and go home rather than run my errand. (And if I took enough medicine to dull the pain, I’d be too doped up to even consider driving in the first place.) I can’t imagine what it’s like for people who need extra room for mobility devices!

Fixing This, One Driver at a Time

  • Leave the handicapped spots for handicapped people. If you do not have a handicapped placard, you should not be parking there–it’s ILLEGAL, and it will cost you quite a bit in fines if you’re caught.
  • Even if you’re not caught doing it, there are people who actually need those spaces, and you’re robbing them of the legal right they have to park there. Does your convenience trump their right to run errands as normally as possible?
  • Do not park in the striped space beside a handicapped spot. Be respectful (and save yourself the parking fines).
  • If you’re parking beside a handicapped spot, be sure to leave extra room on that side so that future visitors can get out easily, no matter what side the handicapped person is on.
  • If you see a car without a placard in a handicapped spot, report it to a parking supervisor. I hate to advise being a “tattletale,” but maybe a few fines will make people realize this is actually an issue!