All posts by Robin

I'm a woman in my early thirties living in North Carolina, USA, and I have a lot of varied interests; I love creative writing, music composition, web design, surfing the Internet, thinking out loud, and gaming. And yes, my glasses are crooked. :)

Jesus is With Us through EVERYTHING

Isaiah 53:4

4 Surely he took up our infirmities and carried our sorrows, yet we considered him stricken by God, smitten by him, and afflicted.

This part of Isaiah, prophetically describing the coming “servant” who would save so many (Jesus), describes how the servant would be despised and hated by many who could (and would) be saved by his sacrifice. We know that about 400 years passed before this prophecy came into truth and was recorded in the New Testament, but it seems as though Isaiah was really there to see Jesus–seeing the outright hatred on the faces of the Sanhedrin as they condemned Him, hearing the hoarse cries of the crowd as Pontius Pilate asked the Jews what they wanted him to do with Jesus.

For most of us, even established Christians, Jesus is more often a vague presence in our lives, worthy of worship, but little else. We don’t think about Jesus walking with us, even though we talk a lot about it. He’s kind of like that friend we keep meaning to contact but never quite get around to it; you know you should, but the longer you keep forgetting, the harder it gets to contact, until finally you’re too ashamed to acknowledge it.

But in fact, Jesus should be (and is) a close presence in our lives. After all, He bore our pain, sorrow, and other afflictions, and took care of our sin; He knows everything about us because He is God in flesh. Yet we do not treat Him as a close friend, but hold Him constantly at arm’s length. (I’m guilty of doing this, especially as a younger believer.) If we can shift our thinking to understand Him more as the closest friend and advisor we could ever have, it would be much closer to the character of Jesus.

For instance, driving in dangerous traffic? Jesus is riding shotgun with us. At the gym, laboring to lose pounds? Jesus is lifting weights with us. Trying to deal with ignorant people at work? Jesus knows exactly what you’re feeling when you walk away from the argument. Whatever we’re going through, Jesus has been there–we Christians have a Friend and Counselor that will never leave us. No wonder He’s also known as the Comforter!

Chocolate After Workouts and Other Self-Bribes

Motivating myself to work out has been a challenge every week, even though I’ve managed to stick to it for longer than I thought. (Come mid-June, I will have been doing Zumba for a year!)

But Thursday afternoons before 6:30 are still a tug-of-war in my mind–laziness and pain fighting against the twin desires to be healthier and fitter. Worries that “tonight’s the night I’m going to overdo it and really hate myself tomorrow” share brain space with “but I can’t miss tonight, I don’t want to break my two-month streak of perfect attendance!”

Luckily, I’ve found a brain trick that works to motivate me…and it has less to do with the workout than what I earn afterwards.

My Workout Self-Bribe: Spa Night + CHOCOLATE 😀

For every Thursday night that I attend Zumba, I reward myself with a “spa night” afterwards–a long, relaxing shower to unwind my muscles and pamper myself. Deep hair conditioning, exfoliating and moisturizing mini-facial…anything and everything I can do to make myself feel pretty and relaxed, I do for myself after my workout. And after I get out of the shower? One piece of chocolate of my choosing. (Most recently, my choice has been Dove’s peanut butter + chocolate combination…epic NOM NOM NOM)

The most important part of this motivation? If I don’t go to Zumba, I don’t get any of the rewards–no long soothing shower, no pampering, no relaxing water massage, and no chocolate. (And I’ve been surprisingly good about not sneaking a piece or two out of the bag after unsuccessful Thursdays or any other day of the week–it’s strictly for rewarding myself after a good workout.) The luxury does not have to be included; if I don’t Zumba, I get a fairly utilitarian shower on Friday morning instead of a Thursday evening pampering session.

Why Does This Work?

Because nothing in this plan involves negativity and punishment. I’m not punishing myself for not going to Zumba–it’s just that if I go, I do something extra-special for myself. I don’t starve myself on Fridays if I choose to spend Thursday night in bed resting my ankle, nor do I force myself to go to another workout later in the week that I won’t enjoy as much. It’s just positive reinforcement…and it has worked for me, as overly simple as it seems. Now I look forward to the workout not only because of the rewards afterwards, but because the moves are becoming easier and I’m seeing real changes in my body.

Trying The Self-Bribe Trick for Yourself

If you’re trying to stay motivated to do something, whether it’s working out, learning a new skill, eating right, etc., you can try this “self-bribe” positive reinforcement for yourself. All it takes is these 3 simple steps:

  1. Pick something that you would normally have to do in order to complete your chosen activity.
    • For me, that was showering after my workout, ’cause it’s kinda necessary.
    • If you’re trying to eat healthy, it might be cooking more meals at home.
    • If you’re trying to learn a new skill, it might be spending more time on instructional websites.
  2. For that necessary activity, add a touch of luxury to it as a reward.
    • Do like I did and turn the post-workout shower into a pampering spa experience, for instance.
    • If you’re cooking healthy, learn how to make a favorite dessert or treat, and make it once a week for every week you manage to eat healthy.
    • For every hour you spend learning a new skill, reward yourself with a 15-minute visit to favorite websites.
  3. If you don’t end up doing the thing you’re trying to stay motivated on, simply don’t include the luxury. You’d be surprised how well this works. 😛

Puzzling through PHP, Part 2: Making a Searchable Database

One of my longest-held dreams, as a fledgling Web designer and developer, was to make a fully searchable database of some sort. I used to dream about building a link database or directory, but as I became a collector of M:TG cards, I discovered I wanted to create a database of all the cards I wanted to trade instead.

But I didn’t dream about it being possible, especially not with any Web language I knew. Little did I know, PHP and MySQL working together could make my dream come true. And the best part is, you can make a database like this too! See how I managed it, with the steps below.

#1: Create the Database to Search

On your host’s control panel somewhere, you should have a way to create MySQL databases. This short tutorial shows you the generic way to create databases from your web host’s control panel, while this longer tutorial has a little bit more tech knowledge needed, but shows you how to manually set up MySQL username, password, etc.

For any database setup, you have to give the database a name, then make yourself an “admin user” account so you can access it. Lastly, you have to make a table within the database to hold the data you want to put into it. While you’re doing this, do not forget to write all this information down–you will need the database name, your admin username, and your admin password to do anything with your data afterwards.

Sample information:
Database name: mydata
Admin username: helloitsme
Admin password: epicsuperlongpassword
Database table: mydatatable

#2: Upload Your Data

To have a searchable database, you first need to have data. You could go through and manually create a MySQL database and plug data into it using a ton of MySQL commands. Buuuuut there’s a much easier way.

Microsoft Excel pages, or any other spreadsheet program pages, for that matter, can be converted over to .CSV (Comma Separated Value) format. These, when uploaded to your server through phpMyAdmin or another MySQL handling program, help populate an existing database table.

Example: For my Magic: the Gathering trades database, I had several pages’ worth of card data, which I’d spread out into individual worksheets within Excel. To translate all of those into .CSV format, I had to remove the label rows and columns (like “Name of Card,” “Condition,” etc.), and then had to save each sheet as a separate .CSV file. Then and only then could I upload it through phpMyAdmin to populate my created database with data.

#3: Write PHP Code to Search the Database

The following code is an actual example of the code I use for searching my M:TG trades database; of course, the username, password, and database name are not given here, for security reasons, but everything else remains the same. You’ll want to put this database-searching code in a separate PHP file from your HTML file where your search form is.

(By the way, I do not take the credit for making this code in any way–a dear computer programmer friend of mine used his coding skill and fixed the code so that it does work. AT LAST!! LOL)

<?php if ($searching == “yes”) {
echo “<p class=\”heading\”>Search Results</p>”; }
if ($find == ” “) {
echo “Oops!  No search term entered–try again!”;     exit; }
//Variables
$host = “localhost”;
$user = “helloitsme”;
$pass = “epicsuperlongpassword”;
$db = “mydata”;
$text = $_POST[‘find’];
$con = mysql_connect($host, $user, $pass) or die (“Connection error”);
$sqlDB = mysql_select_db ($db) or die(“Database selection error”);

$find = strip_tags(trim($text));
$find = strtoupper($text);
$query = mysql_query(“SELECT * FROM mydatatable”, $con);
$found = false;

//This loop will select the row and then uppercase the entire entry
while($data = mysql_fetch_array($query, MYSQL_BOTH)){
$updated =  strtoupper($data[‘name’]);
if($updated == $find)    {
echo $data[‘name’].” “.$data[‘rarity’].” “.$data[‘set’].” “.$data[‘condition’].” “.$data[‘amount’].” “.$data[‘color’];
$found = true;
break;    }}
if(!$found)
echo “Could not find this card”; mysql_close(); ?>

What Does This Code Mean?

<?php if ($searching == “yes”) {
echo “<p class=\”heading\”>Search Results</p>”; }
if ($find == ” “) {
echo “Oops!  No search term entered–try again!”;     exit; }

This determines whether the search has been sent to the server for processing, and if anything’s been put into the search form.

If the search form has been passed to the server, the value of the variable $searching will be “yes”; the if statement concerning this variable cues the browser to display the heading “Search Results” in anticipation.

If the user didn’t put anything into the search form, but hit Submit anyway, the variable called $find will be empty; the second if statement returns an “Oops” message if this is the case.

$host = “localhost”;
$user = “helloitsme”;
$pass = “epicsuperlongpassword”;
$db = “mydata”;
$text = $_POST[‘find’];
$con = mysql_connect($host, $user, $pass) or die (“Connection error”);
$sqlDB = mysql_select_db ($db) or die(“Database selection error”);

These are some of the necessary variables we’ve defined for this particular script to run: the host’s name, username, and password for the database ($host, $user, $pass), the database selection ($sqlDB), the connection to said database ($con), and what the search term was ($text).

You may not need all of these, but we found that the script ran better when all of these variables were clearly defined for the browser.

$find = strip_tags(trim($text));
$find = strtoupper($text);
$query = mysql_query(“SELECT * FROM mydatatable”, $con);
$found = false;

These four variables have more to do with refining the search terms and running bits of the script.

The first $find variable strips any code from the search term, so people can’t hijack the database using malicious code. The second $find puts the search term all in uppercase letters. Both help the search script run more quickly (and protect the database from the most basic of hacks).

The $query variable executes the actual script’s purpose: searching the database for anything matching the search term. And to be honest, I don’t know what the $found variable is for at this point in the script…all I know is that it makes the script work. (Pathetic, I know…this is where my PHP knowledge is spelled F-A-I-L.)

//This loop will select the row and then uppercase the entire entry
while($data = mysql_fetch_array($query, MYSQL_BOTH)){
$updated =  strtoupper($data[‘name’]);
if($updated == $find)    {
echo $data[‘name’].” “.$data[‘rarity’].” “.$data[‘set’].” “.$data[‘condition’].” “.$data[‘amount’].” “.$data[‘color’];
$found = true;
break;    }}
if(!$found)
echo “Could not find this card”; mysql_close(); ?>

This is the bit of the code I understand the least, but my friend’s comment in the PHP script helps a lot. The “while” code begins a looping search through the database, row by row, finding everything that matches the search term.

Once it finds a record that matches, it returns everything about that record–in this case, it finds the name of the card, its rarity, what set it came from, etc. Then the variable of $found gets set to “true” because it found something. If it can’t find anything, however, it just echoes back a “can’t find anything” statement and ends the script.

#4: Plug in the Info for Your Database

Once you’ve got your search code ready to go, all you have to do is plug in your information for the username, password, database name, and table name (for within the database). Make sure you’ve got it spelled exactly right and that the letters are uppercase or lowercase as appropriate! Can’t tell you how many times I’ve mistaken a lowercase “L” for an uppercase “I”.

#5: Test the Search

Now, you need to see if this bad boy works. Type up a quick HTML form to take in your search term, like the one below (again, taken directly from my code).

<form name=”search” method=”post” action=”search.php”>Search for:
<input type=”text” name=”find” />
in
<br>
<input type=”checkbox” name=”name” value=”Name” /> Name of Card<br>
<input type=”checkbox” name=”color” value=”Color” /> Color (White, Blue, etc.)<br>
<input type=”checkbox” name=”rarity” value=”Rarity” /> Rarity (Common, Uncommon, etc.)<br>
<input type=”checkbox” name=”type” value=”Type” /> Type (Creature, Instant, etc.)<br>
<input type=”checkbox” name=”set” value=”Set Name” /> Set Name (Zendikar, M10, etc.)<br>
<input type=”checkbox” name=”condition” value=”Condition” /> Condition (Near Mint, Good, Fair, Poor)<br>
<input type=”checkbox” name=”amount” value=”Amount” /> Amount of Copies (1, 2, 3, etc.)<br>
<input type=”hidden” name=”searching” value=”yes” />
<input type=”submit” name=”search” value=”Search” />
</form>

#6: Debug, Debug, Debug, and By the Way—-Debug

This is the most important (and infuriating) part of this database search. My friend and I spent several months (yes, I said MONTHS) debugging this very script because no matter what we did, it just wouldn’t run. The final edits he made to it, which are reflected in this post, finally made it work.

When you’re working on code like this, it’s important to make sure it’s spaced out enough so that you can read it, and that you work on getting each tiny piece of it perfect instead of trying to scan the whole document for errors. For tired eyes, a colon can sure look like a semicolon, and a lowercase “L” can sure look like an uppercase “I”. You have to watch out for the little errors!

Once you’ve caught all the little spelling and mistyping errors, then you need to check to make sure the code’s variables work like they’re supposed to, and that you’re calling functions that actually exist in PHP and MySQL. For this, it’s best to consult the latest Internet references, or forums where experts in coding gather and help all us abject newbs. LOL

If you’ve made sure everything’s spelled right, and all the functions are supposed to run…well, you do like I did and call upon a friend or trusted authority who knows more about how programming languages are supposed to be written and run. Web development involves programming languages just like the rest of computer science, so there’s no shame in asking if you’re like me and frustrated by anything that resembles math. 😛

Summary

The code I’ve demo’ed here does work, at least for searching card names. We’re not sure what was blocking it from working before…oh well, that’s web development for you, LOL. (By the way, searching by color, set name, and all the other stuff still presents an error…it’s definitely still a work in progress. But at least the whole page doesn’t vomit an error every time you hit “Submit!”)

And if you try this code and get even more success out of it, tell me about it in the comments! To quote Robert Stack, “YOU may be able to help solve a mystery…” 😀

Music as Therapy? YES!

Music is generally thought of as entertainment; for some, a career, for others a pastime or even just background noise. But music is more than this…it can be a creative activity is the most personal sense. It can help you recreate yourself when you have lost your soul’s song.

My Personal Experience with Therapeutic Music

For me, music has always been a lifeline back to sanity. In the afternoons when I got home from a particularly torturous day of middle school, for instance, I knew that solace awaited me atop the piano keys. The melodies I played could drown out, at least for a time, the ugly voices of the girls (and boys) who teased and physically abused me during those years. Indeed, from the memories of my pain, I could create music that was sorrowfully beautiful, and turn their shameful work into something amazing.

Music has been a longstanding companion for me, a lyrical form of therapy that cost nothing and healed me more than medicines ever could. But I’m happy to say that even non-musicians can benefit from music therapy; actually, the profession of being a “music therapist” is a legitimate job now, as one of my college friends can attest. Music can be the key to finally getting rid of your stress, in a creative way.

“Therapeutic” Music: Not Just “Easy Listening”

In my opinion, music doesn’t have to be “relaxing” or “soothing” to be therapeutic. I have gotten rid of a lot of anger while headbanging to Disturbed’s “Indestructible” or Slipknot’s “Before I Forget”, for instance. LOL

I often find that trying to listen to quieter music (which everyone else says is relaxing) actually makes me more agitated, because I have a head full of whirling thoughts that never shut up, and quieter music doesn’t drown those out as effectively. What works best for me is to “bang out the stress,” listening to music with a strong beat, captivating melody, or incredibly apt words for whatever I’m going through.

I’d say that different people relax in different ways, and whatever type of music you really enjoy, you should go with that as your “music therapy.” Soft music works for some, and then there’s people like me who relax with thumpin’ bass and rattling windows. 😛

Participating in Making Music Can Help Even More

Listening to music can be quite therapeutic, as I just noted…but if you try to make music of your own, you can activate creative thought processes as well as relax yourself.

That doesn’t mean that you have to pick up a musical instrument and learn how to play it beautifully. This can mean rocking out on Guitar Hero or Rock Band, fiddling with a music-making software program or Flash game, singing in your church choir or playing in your praise band, or even playing with a musical toy that belongs to your child (or perhaps your kid brother or sister). Anything that gets you involved in the physical process of making music can be therapy for you.

why does this work? Because when you’re focusing on making music, you’re not concentrating on your worries and problems, and you’re not as aware of your surroundings. You can kind of “lose” yourself in the process of it all, letting go of stress. Just don’t worry about the quality of the music you’re making–even if it’s got a whole bunch of wrong notes in it, it doesn’t matter, so long as you’re enjoying making the music.

Write a Couple Ditties of Your Own

If you’re feeling especially creative, you can even try your hand at writing some lyrics and melodies for yourself, almost a musical diary entry. Many of my songs fall into this category–most of my piano/vocal music, in fact. Lyrics just flow better when they’re about my life and various aspects of it, and no matter how personal I get, it seems others still identify with what I sing about.

This is another important part of musical therapy–using music to talk about what you’ve been through. Somehow, couching your past problems in a bit of melody seems to help “close the book” on that part of your life; you’re singing about it, so it’s not as painful anymore. (I’m pretty sure this kind of songwriting got me through middle and high school, though the products of such efforts might be unlistenable. LOL)

If you don’t trust your own songwriting skills, you can seek out a “songwriting buddy” and craft it together, which will work just as well. Who knows, maybe if you find enough people who can sing or play an instrument (and like your songs), you could end up making a band/singing group and have a new joy in your life!

Summary

Think of music as another form of communication. Not only can it help you relax and talk about the problems you’ve worked through, but it can help you remember better times, too…and all of that is therapeutic. It’s amazing what music can do, if you start interacting with it and making it personal!

Art for Meaning, Stranger than Eviction, Video Games for Lazy Eyes, and FootPetals

Art for Art’s Sake, or Art for Meaning?
Should art just be created for its own sake, or should it mean something else, too (religious, social, etc.)?

Stranger Than Eviction
The sad, crazy, and yet funny story of a landlord named Gary, who just might be worse than living where you live now.

Video Games help Adult Amblyopia (Lazy Eye)
A new study finds that people who have “lazy eyes” seem to self-correct when playing video games.

FootPetals
Never suffer ill-fitting, cushion-less shoes again, with these insertable shoe cushions.

Star Wars Minis: A Great Game, And Yet…

Having played miniatures games for the last 5 years, I do enjoy occasionally playing Star Wars Minis as well as a good game of Clix. And yet, somehow, my Clix always get played with just a little more.

Okay, I lied–I play Clix a LOT more than Star Wars Minis, and it’s not just because the game isn’t being produced or supported anymore. I like the game okay, but…there are some definite structural flaws, which make gameplay a lot less fun. For example:

#1: The Game Suffers from the “Rich Kid Effect”

“Rich Kid Effect”: The more money you’re willing to drop on the game, the better items you get.

Almost without fail, the most monetarily expensive SWMinis pieces are the best in the game. If you don’t have a lot of money, you’re not going to be able to get hold of 13 and 14 attacks, 21 or 22 defenses, and tons of Force Powers–it’s just not going to happen. Thus, “rich kid” players win more tournaments not because they’re skilled, but because they can simply afford “better” and “stronger” pieces.

I don’t know about you, but going into a game knowing that I’m probably going to lose because I can’t afford big-money pieces isn’t much of an incentive to play. Comparatively speaking, you can find excellent Clix pieces for cheaper and still win with them against new and more expensive pieces–it’s more about the player’s skill than their paycheck.

#2: All You Have to Do is Pick Big Point Value Pieces to Win

Again, almost without fail, figures with a higher point value almost automatically have better combat values. Figures like Emperor Palpatine, Sith Lord (62 pts, 130 HP, 20 Def, 15 Atk), Yoda, Jedi Master (64 pts, 140 HP, 21 Def, 14 Atk), or Exar Kun (84 pts, 180 HP, 23 Def, 19 Atk) are way expensive for playing in an environment where a typical game limits your team size to 100 points, but they are very much worth it. They just generally have better stats (and powers) than your lower-point-value characters, which means they stand up better in battle and win more. (Consider that lower-point-value figures have attacks of 8-10 and defenses of 16-18, and you see what I mean by “bigger is better.”)

Clix suffers from this a little bit, especially with “power creep” (figures’ powers and stats gradually increasing with every set release). But at least there are some 50-point Clix pieces who can still rip open a 250-point piece. In SWMinis, you either play big or go home, and that doesn’t leave a lot of room for creative army building.

#3: Factions from the Movies Have Better Pieces

If you’re a SWMinis fan playing Rebels or Sith, you’ve pretty much got it made. If you’re a SWMinis fan and want to play other factions like Mandalorians, Old Republic, Separatist, or Yuuzhan Vong, you might as well not bother playing tournaments, or even casual.

Why? Because in general, the “popular” factions have better powers and stats than the “non-popular” factions (and by “popular” I mean “made popular by the movies”). There is a definite power imbalance between the factions, which makes it frustrating to try playing different groups. Why bother, when you’re going to be outmatched for trying something unusual?

Now, I will admit that some of the more-supported team symbols and abilities in Clix (such as Superman-Ally, Batman-Ally, X-Men, and Power Cosmic) get more stuff to do in-game. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t win with a team full of Mystics, 2000 A.D. people, or Suicide Squad members. Teams and their symbols are a little more balanced in Clix, and depend more on the player’s skill than his/her chosen faction.

#4: Many of the Rulings Leave You Scratching Your Head

As a Clix player, some of the differing movement rules for SWMinis made me frustrated. What do you MEAN, diagonal movements cost twice as much as straight movements? What do you MEAN, I can’t shoot past this corner? Some of the rules between other minis games and SWMinis differ in such nitpicky ways that it’s hard to remember (and even harder to reason out WHY they made this difference). I even created a page about all these rules weirdnesses on my gaming site, just so I could remember better!

When rulings just flat don’t make sense, or they are different in such small ways that it’s almost ridiculous, it can stop people from enjoying the game. You spend half the time trying to figure out if a particular strategic move is legal in SWMinis, or if it’s legal in every other minis game BUT SWMinis. Not conducive to good casual or tournament play, sadly.

Summary

While I enjoy breaking out my old favorite SWMinis pieces on occasion, the flaws I’ve detailed above are definite roadblocks to enjoying the game more. With the game pretty much being dead and abandoned, it’s likely I’m one of the only ones left who cares about this issue, but I’d love to see someone fix or at least address these major game flaws. After all, this could be one of the biggest tie-ins to the Star Wars franchise…if it had a little better-functioning game environment.

You Can’t Be a “Non-Believer With Benefits”

Luke 4:23-27
23 Jesus said to them, “Surely you will quote this proverb to me: ‘Physician, heal yourself!’ And you will tell me, ‘Do here in your hometown what we have heard that you did in Capernaum.'”

24 “Truly I tell you,” he continued, “no prophet is accepted in his hometown. 25 I assure you that there were many widows in Israel in Elijah’s time, when the sky was shut for three and a half years and there was a severe famine throughout the land. 26 Yet Elijah was not sent to any of them, but to a widow in Zarephath in the region of Sidon. 27 And there were many in Israel with leprosy in the time of Elisha the prophet, yet not one of them was cleansed–only Naaman the Syrian.”

Here, Jesus is visiting Nazareth, his “hometown,” where He was raised by Mary and Joseph and is well remembered by neighbors and acquaintances. Many of the townspeople had likely heard of Jesus’ miracles and preaching in the surrounding area, but until now He had never done anything back home.

Jesus, being God in flesh, knows what’s primarily on the Nazarenes’ minds, even as they praise Him for His earlier quotations of Isaiah’s prophecies in the synagogue. He knows they want Him to do a bunch of miracles for them, too, even though most of them don’t believe He’s really the Messiah. (That’s right–they don’t believe the kid who was raised among them is really the Messiah. They actually refer to him as “Joseph’s son” the whole time, and their adoration is more born of condescending affection than awe.)

So, Jesus addresses the issue directly. “All right, you want me to do miracles for you, but you don’t really believe in Me; I’m still just Joseph’s kid to you,” the gist of His reply goes. He tells them that Israel didn’t believe in God’s power in the Old Testament either, so God didn’t bless them–He went to other nations and other peoples instead. By doing this, God proved He was still powerful enough to bless, but He was reminding the Israelites that they had to meet Him halfway by trusting and not repudiating Him.

The Nazarenes were making the same mistake. They stood there and practically told Jesus they didn’t think He was nobody special by calling Him simply “Joseph’s son,” but wanted Him to do miracles anyway. They had already rejected him as Messiah, but wanted the benefits of salvation (blessings).

Modern-Day Nazarenes: Yes, They Still Exist!

There are many people today who want a “non-believer with benefits” relationship to Jesus. They don’t REALLY trust in Him, don’t believe in His power to save, but they want all the blessings that they see other Christians getting. But just like a “friends with benefits” relationship eventually falls apart because there is no real love, a “non-believer with benefits” relationship will weaken and die over time because there is no real faith to support it.

Jesus makes it clear: you can’t be a non-believer with benefits–you have to either believe or not. But many people today want God only on their terms. This doesn’t work, and people who relate to Jesus this way end up without the blessings they expect, leading to an eventual doubt of whether He even exists.

If we want God’s blessings to rain down on us, we have to first accept that we are saved by the grace of Jesus–Jesus, God’s Son, not just Jesus from Nazareth. If we don’t truly believe in that grace (and its power to rescue us from our sin), we can’t expect any blessings. It seems too simple to mess up, and yet a lot of us, even established Christians, completely miss this point.

5 Most Useless Wedding Expenditures

I’m still only daydreaming about my big day, but like most ladies with a Pinterest account, I have collected my fair share of wedding ideas on my “Someday Dreams” board, pinning what I’d like to remember in terms of decor, food, costuming, etc.

Along the way, I have discovered that people have found very inventive ways to waste money in weddings. Maybe it’s just me, but I don’t really want to start out my married life in severe debt just because I wanted to have a lavish wedding. Plus, selecting and managing all those tiny little details? Not worth the stress and gray hairs!

With this “simpler-is-better” mindset, I thought about which expenditures give the least “bang for your buck,” and came up with the following five:

Floods of Flowers



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Fresh flowers are lovely but fleeting decorations. While they’re fairly easy to set up and easy to clean up afterwards, large bunches of them can also set off allergies (don’t laugh, I’ve seen it happen!), and can look over-feminized. And aside from a few stems and petals pressed and saved between book pages, fresh flowers can’t be saved as mementos very easily, so they end up literally being money in the trash.

As for fake flowers, they can be saved easily, but you’ll likely end up spending more per bouquet and they’ll junk up your cleanup attempts (and your attic/basement) later. Take it from me, a known packrat… 😛

When you’re looking to stretch your wedding funds, trimming down on flowers may be an easy way to go cheaper and still get a look fit for a party. Just a few flowers here and there may even make a more elegant effect!

Over-Detailed Pew Decorations

Seeing all these photos of wedding aisles trussed up in lengths and lengths of fabric make me a little nervous. Not only can guests easily disturb these during seating, they can serve as a tripping hazard when the wedding party is going down the aisle, too! (Leave it to me, the woman who can trip over a paper clip, to notice hazardous decorations like this. LOL)

Also, lengths of fabric connecting pew to pew decorations can look way too floofy (again, over-feminized). Yes, there will be a lot of females involved, but you want to make sure the groom doesn’t keel over of an estrogen overdose before the end of the ceremony! 😛 All kidding aside, having pew decorations that look like extensions of the bride’s dress can be a bit of overkill (expensive overkill, no less–you have to pay for all that fabric, after all).

Saving a little money on the pew decorations and going for something simpler–that isn’t a hazard–might be just what your budget calls for (as well as what your guests will enjoy more).



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Too Expensive “Wedding Food”



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Have you ever noticed that the more expensive food is, the less you get, and the less edible it is? Hoity-toity names, pretty presentations, dainty miniature portion sizes, and pricey ingredients don’t seem to make things taste all that good. Choosing good food that you and your intended enjoy may not mean that you have to go to the fanciest place in town to get catering.

In fact, you might want to go for booking a pretty location and having just home-cooked food, or awesome cheaper eats presented in fancy ways. (I’ve long joked that I’d have a PB&J table and a KFC table at my wedding reception, just because I actually want to be able to EAT. 😛 )

Remember, nobody said your wedding food had to be 50 bucks a plate. You don’t want to end up paying more for the presentation of the food than the quality, right?

Painfully Pricey Bridal Shoes

I see and hear of many brides choosing very high, sparkly heels for their big days, and…my ankles ache in sympathy. No matter how big or small you are physically, high-heeled shoes are a no-no when you’re going to be walking and standing a lot!

Take it from a choral singer who’s stood in hour-long concerts in enough pairs of high heels–you don’t want to punish yourself like that. You could even end up hurting yourself if you trip and fall over a long bridal dress train (broken ankles are not usually part of the ceremony). And remember, if you’re blistered and achy later, your new husband is going to have to put up with you…just sayin’.

In this instance, going for lower heels (or even supportive flats) could help you enjoy your big day a lot better. Usually, lower heels and less decoration mean a cheaper price, and honestly, with all the awesomeness of you walking down the aisle, who’s going to be looking at your shoes, anyway?



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Overloaded Wedding Favors



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You do want to thank your guests for coming and giving them a small token to remember the occasion. You don’t want your guests going home overloaded with a gift like they just left a taping of the Oprah Winfrey Show.

Going into way too much detail and too much cost on favors can backfire–it’s more stuff for the guests to keep up with, and many guests throw away their favors within a month of the wedding anyway. (SAD but true–well, except for me, the packrat. LOL) Even if you think the guests are going to “use them forever,” you don’t have any control over them once you’ve given the favors…and you don’t want money going into the trash (or into yard sales) unnecessarily.

Instead, edible favors, or very small “thank you” tokens of appreciation like a keychain tag or custom bookmark, could be easier ways to let your guests know that you appreciate their effort. (In the case of edible favors, be wary of common food allergens, like peanuts.) Either way, this will ensure that the guests enjoy the favors and don’t have loads of stuff to carry to the car later.

Summary

Weddings are awesome occasions, and every couple wants to make sure theirs is special and spiffy. Just remember that throwing money around doesn’t make a wedding special–it’s the people that come and the genuineness of the ceremony. Instead of going into debt for your big day, spend the money on things you know you’ll remember (and things you’ll need), and leave the unnecessary flourishes for soap opera weddings. 🙂

Hand-Drawn Graphics: Yes, They CAN Be Good Enough

Contrary to popular Web belief, Internet graphics don’t have to be sleek ‘n shiny like technology. In fact, in this age of lookalike layouts and cookie-cutter designs, landscapes of reflective images and shadowed text, hand-drawn graphics can give a touch of rustic personality to a page. A hand-drawn layout, icon set, avatar, etc., can make your page feel homey and intimate–truly “handcrafted.” What’s more, it can make your site seem more down-to-earth.

But not all Web designers are handy with a pen or a paintbrush. (I know I certainly ain’t the world’s best. LOL) It can be daunting to try to put your own artwork on your webpage for everyone to see; you can be paralyzed, thinking “What if it’s not good enough? What if I work really hard on it, and it ends up looking like I used it for toilet paper?”

These are some of the real thoughts and feelings I had about doing my own hand-drawn layouts…and I finally just decided to go ahead and try my hand at it, literally. The following are some of my results:

Examples of Hand-Drawn Graphics

(For each example, click on the image to get a full-size screenshot.)

The Network Look


This, my network page, was my first try at doing a hand-drawn layout. With this layout, based on a real tree I used to climb when I was a kid, I placed buttons and links as if they were flowers and buds on living branches, with my sketch as a simple background image.

I added no color to the actual sketch–I wanted the buttons to be the spots of color in the design, like trees’ natural flower buds and blossoms. (Plus, whenever I add color to my sketches, they automatically turn from “pretty good high-school art class” to “kindergarten art class mess”. Every. Time. xD)

The Domain Look


My domain layout featured a big, sheltering tree like the ones all around my house, its soft, cloudlike branches overhanging the content on either side of the “trunk.”


The “trunk” of the sketched tree stretched down all the way to the bottom of the page, where I had the “roots” of the tree in my footer, seen here. This is probably my favorite footer design to date–it really looks like the “end” of the page, the “ground” rather than just an arbitrary bit of code stuck at the bottom.

This sketch also received no color, because I knew I’d be using large areas of various shades of green in my CSS styles; I didn’t want the actual tree to clash. I also cite my previous difficulties with adding color to my sketches. It just never works out quite as I intend. LOL

The Fanlistings Look


This “flowers & ribbons” design literally framed my joined fanlistings page, and was difficult to code but looked beautiful on the page. For this one, I added a golden color to the flowers using Photoshop, and the overall layout looked much better as a result.

I used the boxed-in design as a way to stretch my design boundaries–the style succeeded with a little image slicing and creative use of HTML tables (yes, I used tables because aligned divs hate me). In this layout, the hand-drawn images define the space but do not detract from the content, like a good area rug in a living room.

The Update Blog Look


My update blog featured only small-scale sketches (a big leaf, a tiny multi-petaled blossom, and a growing flower on its stem). I used the leaf and blossom on the top part of the layout, and the flower-and-stem image in the footer, as seen below:

Using little sketched images in strategic places on the layout (and, again, not adding any color to the sketch itself, but using blocks of color in the layout code) gave it an airy, organic look. Plus, using fewer sketches meant more space for content, should the design need it; I wasn’t sure how much the various tag clouds and category spaces would need, so I went for as much visual space as possible.

Weaknesses of This Design Style

While this does look down-to-earth and homey, it can also look amateurish. (I fully admit mine are not the best in technical execution, but they were the best I personally could do.) In addition, hand-drawn designs can easily be misaligned, angled oddly, or leave crooked lines on a webpage; you can correct many graphical sins with Photoshop, but not everything!

However, if you’re skilled doing pencil-paper sketches (or sketches on a tablet computer with a stylus), you might be able to turn a hand-drawn design into a sleek-looking layout; it would be a worthy challenge! It’s just a little bit harder to get the perfect straight lines and shiny details we’re so used to with the Web these days.

Where Can You Use Hand-Drawn Designs?

In my opinion as a designer, hand-drawn designs are generally better for small personal/informational sites and the like, not big corporate or commerce sites. Any site where you need a personal touch, a more casual layout, etc., a little sketch (or a big one!) can work.

How to Make Your Best Hand-Drawn Graphics

You Will Need:

  • Pencil
  • Ink pen
  • Coloring medium (if desired; paint would need to be let alone to dry and might not scan well)
  • Ruler (if desired)
  • Printer paper (clean and uncreased)
  • Scrap paper
  • Scanner/copier/printer & computer, linked together

Directions:

  1. Sketch out your ideas on your scrap paper with a pencil–much easier to work with your design when your lines can be erased (take it from me).
  2. When you have something you’re satisfied with, take up your pen and printer paper, and begin transferring your sketch(es) into finalized form, using a ruler as necessary.
  3. Make a couple of copies of your uncolored sketch to see how well the machine picks up your lines, and make any lines darker that don’t show up. (Also, it’s good to have a few copies of your sketch on hand just in case something happens to the original.)
  4. If you want to color in your hand-drawn design by hand, do so now. Alternatively, you can add color digitally with an image-editing program once you scan it in.
  5. Scan in the image–you may have to adjust the contrast, brightness, and other image settings so that the pen lines or hand-added colors don’t look distorted. (I ended up with one sketch that looked like a photo negative because I messed up the image settings…LOL)
  6. Once it’s scanned into your computer, you now have an image that you can use as the baseline for any web project!

Useful Cardstock Crafts

Cardstock isn’t just for decorative little trinkets that are easily crushed anymore. In fact, there are lots of cardstock crafts that actually provide a useful function.

I didn’t believe it for myself, however, until I started investigating. As a sometime crafter, I want crafts that are pretty but useful, because I already have a houseful of useless clutter. (Pack rat? Moi? 😛 )

Thus, when I ran across the following tutorials on cardstock crafting, which resulted in homemade items one could actually use and enjoy, I was pleasantly surprised, and I wanted to share these with you.

Around-The-House Objects

Drink Coasters

Not only can you use printed cardstock to decorate plain square tiles as coasters, but you can make coasters out of cardstock itself! (The just-cardstock coasters are a little flimsy, so perhaps you could make them a little more permanent by building up layers of cardstock together, or attaching the cardstock to a base of cork.)


StyleMePretty: Tile Coaster Tut

CreativeConceptsNYC: Cardstock Coaster Tut

Decorative (Yet Functional) Boxes

Literally tons of “cardstock box” tutorials are out there, so I selected three of the most unique and cute tuts I found. Who knew there were so many uses for random paper scraps and gift cards? You can make boxes to hold small items, as well as small gift boxes, and even a cute storage box for your favorite packets of tea!

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Etsy: Cardstock-Scrap Box Tut (video)

Craftypod: Old-Giftcard Box Tut

MelStampz: Teapot Box Tut
 

CreativityPrompt: Box of Drawers Tut

Other Useful Items

Besides coasters and boxes, you can also make big envelopes, and seed packets for storing seeds or giving them as gifts.


Alenka’s Printables: Seed Packet Tut
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About.com: 4.5″ x 6″ Blank Envelope Template

Special Event Supplies

If you don’t want to spend a lot of money on party supplies, especially for paper products, cardstock seems to be the way to go. These creative ideas for napkin rings, party hats, wedding favor bags, and wedding program fans are simple to make and money-saving as well!

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About.com: Blank Wedding Favor Bag Template
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About.com: Napkin Ring Template
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About.com: Party Hat Template

About.com: Wedding Program Fan Tut

Just For Fun

Sounds strange to be able to make toys and fun things out of cardstock, but you can! The following three tutorials show you how to make models, alphabet blocks, and even 3D glasses out of cardstock. (The cardstock modeling FAQ, in particular, shows you how to make models of buildings, planes, etc. out of cardstock for kids to decorate and play with…or for you to decorate and play with!)

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CardFAQ: Cardstock Modeling

About.com: 3D Glasses Tut
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About.com: Alphabet Blocks Tut

And Last but Not Least…

Not only can you use cardstock for its own crafts, but you can use cardstock to aid you in other craft-making, like creating templates for tracing and stenciling.


CraftIdeas.info: Cardstock Templates

Summary

Cardstock has so many useful applications around your home, and for all sorts of special events. If you’ve never tried crafting with cardstock, try some of the templates and tutorials I’ve linked to–you may just surprise yourself!